Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Dating Survival Tips 1 - 5

My attempt to share with my fellow single people what I have learned DOES NOT WORK!! in Dating Land.

Dating Survival Tips

1) What not to talk about, as in everything that happened in your life on the first date!
Ok this will be embarrasing but learn from my mistakes. On my second post divorce date I talked incessantly about my ENTIRE life - major no-no!! Oh yes - birth stories the whole bit - no-no-no!!! Needless to say he ran - can't say I blame him:)!
I had one first date through IJL where, bless this man's heart, I heard so much about his x-wife. I could tell he was still hurting. Not time yet for him.

2)Don't be too available
For my second post divorce date, this man called me urgently on a morning to meet for lunch. Some mutual friends had given him my name. Well I was too available because I agreed to meet him for lunch that day. Hey even if you are desperate to meet someone give it at least 24 hours.

3)Don't stare at body parts.


4)Make an effort to be Polite
On my very first date as a newly sinlge woman I meet a friend's, work friends, single brother - got that? Well I got all dolled up and met him at the restaurant. When I met him in the lobby he looked like he was in a bad mood. He was in a bad mood and stayed in a bad mood all through the L O N G lunch!

Seriously people put a smile on! First Impressions! Remember!

5) DON'T SLING PESTO SAUCE AROUND in other words get easy food!
On my first set up date in North Carolina we met at a Italian restaurant. When we ordered our meal I order pasta with pesto sauce. Easy enough right! Oh not me! When the pasta with pesto came it looked like pasta soup with presto sauce. I thought "Have I missed a new way to serve pasta?" I gamely tried to eat my pesto pasta soup and proceeded to sling green bits of goo aroung the table. Oh hell! Can I not get a break?!

6) More to come!