Dating Survival Tips 6 - 10

Dating Survival Tips 6 - 10


6) Sometimes great chemistry goes absolutely no where.

There are dates where you think "This is amazing!" " We really are in sinc!"
" Wow he is gorgeous!" "A lawyer!" "He laughs at the right things!"

You restrain yourself for clubbing him over the head and taking home back to your cave. You bat your eyes and smile. You are a lady after all. Damm! What a drag!

You all email back and forth a few times. Then he disappears from radar.

Put Bride magazine away.

No need to ponder how you would change your name after you were married.

Hey a good date that goes no where is better than a bad date you wish you never had!


7) Do not tell you date you willingly married your ex twice.

Refer to Lesson 1.

8) Bragging about your excess success can backfire.

One date who told me he owned six cars. He was immensely proud of this. I, on the other hand, could only think "Why, Why, Why, Why, Wh..." Maybe a car or two but six! I am at a loss.

I want to meet a good man not a car fleet!

Another date was quite smug about telling me his grandmother, in her second marriage, had married into a very wealthy American dynasty-type family but he would not their name. Huh? Like I asked. He pointed out what town the family was from. I still did not ask the name. He then informed me his grandmother sent him massive checks at Christmas. I still did not take this bait. Boring!

I want to meet a man confident in what he has done not what checks his grandmother sends him.

9) This should be obvious - Do not get drunk on your date.

The night starts out great, drinks flow while the conversation rolls along.

One date kept kicking back scotch. Again and Again and Again. Not smart! If someone is that cavalier about drinking and driving - Red Flag! One strike you are out!

10) Never complain about your children!

One gentleman had sole custody of his fourteen year old daughter. He proceeded to complain on our first and only date that all his daughter did was talk on the phone and shop.

Number One: Do not complain about your children, you are fortunate to have them.

Number Two: If all you have to complain about is too much talking and too much shopping, consider yourself pretty damm lucky!!

Dating Survival Tips 1 - 5

My attempt to share with my fellow single people what I have learned DOES NOT WORK!! in Dating Land.

Dating Survival Tips

1) What not to talk about, as in everything that happened in your life on the first date!
Ok this will be embarrasing but learn from my mistakes. On my second post divorce date I talked incessantly about my ENTIRE life - major no-no!! Oh yes - birth stories the whole bit - no-no-no!!! Needless to say he ran - can't say I blame him:)!
I had one first date through IJL where, bless this man's heart, I heard so much about his x-wife. I could tell he was still hurting. Not time yet for him.

2)Don't be too available
For my second post divorce date, this man called me urgently on a morning to meet for lunch. Some mutual friends had given him my name. Well I was too available because I agreed to meet him for lunch that day. Hey even if you are desperate to meet someone give it at least 24 hours.

3)Don't stare at body parts.


4)Make an effort to be Polite
On my very first date as a newly sinlge woman I meet a friend's, work friends, single brother - got that? Well I got all dolled up and met him at the restaurant. When I met him in the lobby he looked like he was in a bad mood. He was in a bad mood and stayed in a bad mood all through the L O N G lunch!

Seriously people put a smile on! First Impressions! Remember!

5) DON'T SLING PESTO SAUCE AROUND in other words get easy food!
On my first set up date in North Carolina we met at a Italian restaurant. When we ordered our meal I order pasta with pesto sauce. Easy enough right! Oh not me! When the pasta with pesto came it looked like pasta soup with presto sauce. I thought "Have I missed a new way to serve pasta?" I gamely tried to eat my pesto pasta soup and proceeded to sling green bits of goo aroung the table. Oh hell! Can I not get a break?!

6) More to come!

Southern Lady - Single and Dating - It's hell out there!

Pretty tough title for a blog huh?

Well honey when you got a blind date wanting to touch your hair and you do not want him to touch your hair and he keep asking to touch you hair you get kind of angry!! As a properly raised Southern Girl I was taught to be So POLITE! In other words I internalize everything, something I am working on undoing. Blog case in point. So what I wanted to say "Hell no you can't touch my hair" Blogspot was born!

Well that title is just a sampling of dating hell for the 40 plus divorcee...It is rough out there! Hair toucher wannabes not withstanding!
As a flaming redhead - people are fascinated by my hair. All I know is it is starting to go gray. Now this good be a good look for me or I could end up resembling a "when is she going to color her hair?" middle aged chick. Hmm...

Stay tuned to stories from the Dating Survivalists - Me and my friends!

This is all in the quest for the RIGHT MAN! He is runing late! What did he do? Get lost and refuse the ask for directions?...

As a divorced 42 mom in a small town in North East Tennessee dating is an acronym for

D on't

A ttempt

T o

I ndicate

N uptual

G oal


They will run for the hills!


Being divorced, with two children and alone was not my plan but I got to roll with it or get rolled over by it! Dating is one way society puts us out there. Where I ask? Is it all that exciting?!...well it is a darn site better than sitting in front of the television eating a bucket of cookie dough.Yep Nestle sells a bucket of cookie dough. Nestle clearly wanted to get in on the ice-cream-in-front-of-the-television-for-lonely-women bucket business.

So off the sofa I am!

I lived in Chapel Hill, North Carolina recently and took advantage of a dating service - It's Just Lunch. I paid them a fist full or two of dollars to interview me and set me up on dates. When I had lived in Tennessee before I had a whopping one date a year in the three years I lived there as newly divorced. When I moved the Chapel Hill I decided it was time to date. I needed to get some "experience" in the dating world. Not that kind of experience!! Since I had been married twelve years I was quite rusty about dating and honestly nervous about the prospect.