6) Sometimes great chemistry goes absolutely no where.
There are dates where you think "This is amazing!" " We really are in sinc!"
" Wow he is gorgeous!" "A lawyer!" "He laughs at the right things!"
You restrain yourself for clubbing him over the head and taking home back to your cave. You bat your eyes and smile. You are a lady after all. Damm! What a drag!
You all email back and forth a few times. Then he disappears from radar.
Put Bride magazine away.
No need to ponder how you would change your name after you were married.
Hey a good date that goes no where is better than a bad date you wish you never had!
7) Do not tell you date you willingly married your ex twice.
Refer to Lesson 1.
8) Bragging about your excess success can backfire.
One date who told me he owned six cars. He was immensely proud of this. I, on the other hand, could only think "Why, Why, Why, Why, Wh..." Maybe a car or two but six! I am at a loss.
I want to meet a good man not a car fleet!
Another date was quite smug about telling me his grandmother, in her second marriage, had married into a very wealthy American dynasty-type family but he would not their name. Huh? Like I asked. He pointed out what town the family was from. I still did not ask the name. He then informed me his grandmother sent him massive checks at Christmas. I still did not take this bait. Boring!
I want to meet a man confident in what he has done not what checks his grandmother sends him.
9) This should be obvious - Do not get drunk on your date.
The night starts out great, drinks flow while the conversation rolls along.
One date kept kicking back scotch. Again and Again and Again. Not smart! If someone is that cavalier about drinking and driving - Red Flag! One strike you are out!
10) Never complain about your children!
One gentleman had sole custody of his fourteen year old daughter. He proceeded to complain on our first and only date that all his daughter did was talk on the phone and shop.
Number One: Do not complain about your children, you are fortunate to have them.
Number Two: If all you have to complain about is too much talking and too much shopping, consider yourself pretty damm lucky!!
