As I ask for dating dos and mostly don't stories from friends I wonder when the don'ts will not out number the dos completely!
Apparently furniture demands are now required by some fool man around here.
Now this all started when Lady A asked Bubba A to come in her house after a date to have more time to chat. He sat on her sofa and tried to make himself comfortable, maybe too comfortable because he proceeded to tell Lady A if she wanted to keep seeing him she had to buy a more comfortable sofa.
Needless to say Bubba and the Pea was never invited over again or seen again.
High maintanence men come in many shapes.
High maintenance men can also be cheap oh so cheap.
Lady A met Bubba B. When the discussion came up of where to have dinner several options were mentioned. Many were deemed too expensive. Well meaning Lady A mentioned Logan's - a reasonable family style restaurant. Bubba B was most offended - Going to Logan's is high falooting living.
Rude and Cheap - 0 for 2
Lady A is said to be holed up in her house reading trashy novels - safer!
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Beware the Bald Vegan and Other Internet Dating Tips.
Ahh Internet Dating.
What happened to meeting people at a bar where they lie or mislead to your face? Now lying or misleading has gone high tech!
A brave dear friend shared her internet dating stories with me. She met some masters of misleading.
She is a smart lady never shared personal information. She would screen her "prospects" via email for awhile. Then she arrange to met her a "prospect" at a local coffee shop. All well and good.
Prospect A
When she met Prospect A for coffee he looked like his picture - bald in Match pic and bald at coffee shop. (Good so far!)
He discussed with her that he was a very strict vegetarian. (OK)
He then went on to say he had a hard time meeting women at the temple. (OK he is Jewish)
He then showed her pictures of his young son and daughter. (She noticed his son was bald...hmm...)
He then went on to say he was having a hard time getting his son to wear the orange robes to school (!!!!!!!!- Yikes! Turns out there was a Hare Krishna school near by - so my friend's date was a Hare Krishna)
Propect B
When she met Prospect B for coffee he looked like his picture (good starting point!)
He showed her pictures of his children (cute pics! - devoted dad)
Told her he had them by different women (ok...)
Then told my friend he had not seen children in years (??!!)
Because he had been in prison (BYE!!!)
At this point my friend said enough! She quit for a few months then tried again.
Prospect C
When she met Prospect C for coffee he looked like his picture (again a positive)
From earlier emails she had learned he was new to the area and knew few people because he telecommuted. (Well and Good)
Well after nice chat over coffee Prospect C asked "Do you know what I like best about working from home?"
"What?" my friend asked
"You can work naked and nobody knows it"
At this point she was running for her car!
What happened to meeting people at a bar where they lie or mislead to your face? Now lying or misleading has gone high tech!
A brave dear friend shared her internet dating stories with me. She met some masters of misleading.
She is a smart lady never shared personal information. She would screen her "prospects" via email for awhile. Then she arrange to met her a "prospect" at a local coffee shop. All well and good.
Prospect A
When she met Prospect A for coffee he looked like his picture - bald in Match pic and bald at coffee shop. (Good so far!)
He discussed with her that he was a very strict vegetarian. (OK)
He then went on to say he had a hard time meeting women at the temple. (OK he is Jewish)
He then showed her pictures of his young son and daughter. (She noticed his son was bald...hmm...)
He then went on to say he was having a hard time getting his son to wear the orange robes to school (!!!!!!!!- Yikes! Turns out there was a Hare Krishna school near by - so my friend's date was a Hare Krishna)
Propect B
When she met Prospect B for coffee he looked like his picture (good starting point!)
He showed her pictures of his children (cute pics! - devoted dad)
Told her he had them by different women (ok...)
Then told my friend he had not seen children in years (??!!)
Because he had been in prison (BYE!!!)
At this point my friend said enough! She quit for a few months then tried again.
Prospect C
When she met Prospect C for coffee he looked like his picture (again a positive)
From earlier emails she had learned he was new to the area and knew few people because he telecommuted. (Well and Good)
Well after nice chat over coffee Prospect C asked "Do you know what I like best about working from home?"
"What?" my friend asked
"You can work naked and nobody knows it"
At this point she was running for her car!
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Dating Survival Tips 6 - 10
Dating Survival Tips 6 - 10
6) Sometimes great chemistry goes absolutely no where.
There are dates where you think "This is amazing!" " We really are in sinc!"
" Wow he is gorgeous!" "A lawyer!" "He laughs at the right things!"
You restrain yourself for clubbing him over the head and taking home back to your cave. You bat your eyes and smile. You are a lady after all. Damm! What a drag!
You all email back and forth a few times. Then he disappears from radar.
Put Bride magazine away.
No need to ponder how you would change your name after you were married.
Hey a good date that goes no where is better than a bad date you wish you never had!
7) Do not tell you date you willingly married your ex twice.
6) Sometimes great chemistry goes absolutely no where.
There are dates where you think "This is amazing!" " We really are in sinc!"
" Wow he is gorgeous!" "A lawyer!" "He laughs at the right things!"
You restrain yourself for clubbing him over the head and taking home back to your cave. You bat your eyes and smile. You are a lady after all. Damm! What a drag!
You all email back and forth a few times. Then he disappears from radar.
Put Bride magazine away.
No need to ponder how you would change your name after you were married.
Hey a good date that goes no where is better than a bad date you wish you never had!
7) Do not tell you date you willingly married your ex twice.
Refer to Lesson 1.
8) Bragging about your excess success can backfire.
One date who told me he owned six cars. He was immensely proud of this. I, on the other hand, could only think "Why, Why, Why, Why, Wh..." Maybe a car or two but six! I am at a loss.
I want to meet a good man not a car fleet!
Another date was quite smug about telling me his grandmother, in her second marriage, had married into a very wealthy American dynasty-type family but he would not their name. Huh? Like I asked. He pointed out what town the family was from. I still did not ask the name. He then informed me his grandmother sent him massive checks at Christmas. I still did not take this bait. Boring!
I want to meet a man confident in what he has done not what checks his grandmother sends him.
9) This should be obvious - Do not get drunk on your date.
The night starts out great, drinks flow while the conversation rolls along.
One date kept kicking back scotch. Again and Again and Again. Not smart! If someone is that cavalier about drinking and driving - Red Flag! One strike you are out!
10) Never complain about your children!
One gentleman had sole custody of his fourteen year old daughter. He proceeded to complain on our first and only date that all his daughter did was talk on the phone and shop.
Number One: Do not complain about your children, you are fortunate to have them.
Number Two: If all you have to complain about is too much talking and too much shopping, consider yourself pretty damm lucky!!
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Dating Survival Tips 1 - 5
My attempt to share with my fellow single people what I have learned DOES NOT WORK!! in Dating Land.
Dating Survival Tips
1) What not to talk about, as in everything that happened in your life on the first date!
Ok this will be embarrasing but learn from my mistakes. On my second post divorce date I talked incessantly about my ENTIRE life - major no-no!! Oh yes - birth stories the whole bit - no-no-no!!! Needless to say he ran - can't say I blame him:)!
I had one first date through IJL where, bless this man's heart, I heard so much about his x-wife. I could tell he was still hurting. Not time yet for him.
2)Don't be too available
For my second post divorce date, this man called me urgently on a morning to meet for lunch. Some mutual friends had given him my name. Well I was too available because I agreed to meet him for lunch that day. Hey even if you are desperate to meet someone give it at least 24 hours.
3)Don't stare at body parts.
4)Make an effort to be Polite
On my very first date as a newly sinlge woman I meet a friend's, work friends, single brother - got that? Well I got all dolled up and met him at the restaurant. When I met him in the lobby he looked like he was in a bad mood. He was in a bad mood and stayed in a bad mood all through the L O N G lunch!
Seriously people put a smile on! First Impressions! Remember!
5) DON'T SLING PESTO SAUCE AROUND in other words get easy food!
On my first set up date in North Carolina we met at a Italian restaurant. When we ordered our meal I order pasta with pesto sauce. Easy enough right! Oh not me! When the pasta with pesto came it looked like pasta soup with presto sauce. I thought "Have I missed a new way to serve pasta?" I gamely tried to eat my pesto pasta soup and proceeded to sling green bits of goo aroung the table. Oh hell! Can I not get a break?!
6) More to come!
Dating Survival Tips
1) What not to talk about, as in everything that happened in your life on the first date!
Ok this will be embarrasing but learn from my mistakes. On my second post divorce date I talked incessantly about my ENTIRE life - major no-no!! Oh yes - birth stories the whole bit - no-no-no!!! Needless to say he ran - can't say I blame him:)!
I had one first date through IJL where, bless this man's heart, I heard so much about his x-wife. I could tell he was still hurting. Not time yet for him.
2)Don't be too available
For my second post divorce date, this man called me urgently on a morning to meet for lunch. Some mutual friends had given him my name. Well I was too available because I agreed to meet him for lunch that day. Hey even if you are desperate to meet someone give it at least 24 hours.
3)Don't stare at body parts.
4)Make an effort to be Polite
On my very first date as a newly sinlge woman I meet a friend's, work friends, single brother - got that? Well I got all dolled up and met him at the restaurant. When I met him in the lobby he looked like he was in a bad mood. He was in a bad mood and stayed in a bad mood all through the L O N G lunch!
Seriously people put a smile on! First Impressions! Remember!
5) DON'T SLING PESTO SAUCE AROUND in other words get easy food!
On my first set up date in North Carolina we met at a Italian restaurant. When we ordered our meal I order pasta with pesto sauce. Easy enough right! Oh not me! When the pasta with pesto came it looked like pasta soup with presto sauce. I thought "Have I missed a new way to serve pasta?" I gamely tried to eat my pesto pasta soup and proceeded to sling green bits of goo aroung the table. Oh hell! Can I not get a break?!
6) More to come!
Monday, October 29, 2007
Southern Lady - Single and Dating - It's hell out there!
Pretty tough title for a blog huh?
Well honey when you got a blind date wanting to touch your hair and you do not want him to touch your hair and he keep asking to touch you hair you get kind of angry!! As a properly raised Southern Girl I was taught to be So POLITE! In other words I internalize everything, something I am working on undoing. Blog case in point. So what I wanted to say "Hell no you can't touch my hair" Blogspot was born!
Well that title is just a sampling of dating hell for the 40 plus divorcee...It is rough out there! Hair toucher wannabes not withstanding!
As a flaming redhead - people are fascinated by my hair. All I know is it is starting to go gray. Now this good be a good look for me or I could end up resembling a "when is she going to color her hair?" middle aged chick. Hmm...
Stay tuned to stories from the Dating Survivalists - Me and my friends!
This is all in the quest for the RIGHT MAN! He is runing late! What did he do? Get lost and refuse the ask for directions?...
As a divorced 42 mom in a small town in North East Tennessee dating is an acronym for
D on't
A ttempt
T o
I ndicate
N uptual
G oal
They will run for the hills!
Being divorced, with two children and alone was not my plan but I got to roll with it or get rolled over by it! Dating is one way society puts us out there. Where I ask? Is it all that exciting?!...well it is a darn site better than sitting in front of the television eating a bucket of cookie dough.Yep Nestle sells a bucket of cookie dough. Nestle clearly wanted to get in on the ice-cream-in-front-of-the-television-for-lonely-women bucket business.
So off the sofa I am!
I lived in Chapel Hill, North Carolina recently and took advantage of a dating service - It's Just Lunch. I paid them a fist full or two of dollars to interview me and set me up on dates. When I had lived in Tennessee before I had a whopping one date a year in the three years I lived there as newly divorced. When I moved the Chapel Hill I decided it was time to date. I needed to get some "experience" in the dating world. Not that kind of experience!! Since I had been married twelve years I was quite rusty about dating and honestly nervous about the prospect.
Well honey when you got a blind date wanting to touch your hair and you do not want him to touch your hair and he keep asking to touch you hair you get kind of angry!! As a properly raised Southern Girl I was taught to be So POLITE! In other words I internalize everything, something I am working on undoing. Blog case in point. So what I wanted to say "Hell no you can't touch my hair" Blogspot was born!
Well that title is just a sampling of dating hell for the 40 plus divorcee...It is rough out there! Hair toucher wannabes not withstanding!As a flaming redhead - people are fascinated by my hair. All I know is it is starting to go gray. Now this good be a good look for me or I could end up resembling a "when is she going to color her hair?" middle aged chick. Hmm...
Stay tuned to stories from the Dating Survivalists - Me and my friends!
This is all in the quest for the RIGHT MAN! He is runing late! What did he do? Get lost and refuse the ask for directions?...
As a divorced 42 mom in a small town in North East Tennessee dating is an acronym for
D on't
A ttempt
T o
I ndicate
N uptual
G oal
They will run for the hills!
Being divorced, with two children and alone was not my plan but I got to roll with it or get rolled over by it! Dating is one way society puts us out there. Where I ask? Is it all that exciting?!...well it is a darn site better than sitting in front of the television eating a bucket of cookie dough.Yep Nestle sells a bucket of cookie dough. Nestle clearly wanted to get in on the ice-cream-in-front-of-the-television-for-lonely-women bucket business.
So off the sofa I am!
I lived in Chapel Hill, North Carolina recently and took advantage of a dating service - It's Just Lunch. I paid them a fist full or two of dollars to interview me and set me up on dates. When I had lived in Tennessee before I had a whopping one date a year in the three years I lived there as newly divorced. When I moved the Chapel Hill I decided it was time to date. I needed to get some "experience" in the dating world. Not that kind of experience!! Since I had been married twelve years I was quite rusty about dating and honestly nervous about the prospect.
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